entry's consequence is exit?!

addition of something into anything causes deletion of some other thing.
happens in life and relationships as well. yeah?
entry os some person causes exit of some others...deliberately or as a co-incidence
well, of late this has become quite evident and significant for my eyes. i must say some knind of strong per-occupation.
whomever i meet, wotever i listen/ talk...i have this weird feeling n i feel that this feeling of mine is not rare/unique for me. it happens for u all as well?

entry of jealous/envy/ ego/ anger etc causes xit of happiness/ satisfaction/ confidence/ contentedness etc.

entry of a new person like new friends/ lover/ bf/gf/ students/ colleagues/ clients/ etc causes exit of old friends/parents/ etc....

is this because our priorities change? aren't our priorities lie under our able control? do we really easily get controlled over by egos/ attitudes/ love life/ wife /husband  and let go other previously existing wonderful things n people?
is it some kind of uninstall n reinstall with an updated one n then later feel 'old is gold?'
hmmmmm....these kind of various unanswered questions still continue to wonder n exist in my mind, as always.

but i have a answer. it is not unavoidable. such frustrating, regretting, dementiating consequences and/ or antecedents ca defenitely be avoided/ managed.
a;; we gotcha do is accept n think before we act n react.
we have to say for ourselves that 'i want this to be done happily'..strong determination.

recently i was seeing a student of mine lying frequently n not opening up with her mother n teachers at all. not that she has LD, her family n teachers needed counseling...they are pre-occupied with a thought that this child is always wrong/ she will be at risk if she's given freedom to take independent decisions/ she can't/ etc.  then there are frequent arguments n for everything there is a drama at home. ultimately the child got pissed off n fed up . they made her so badly effected that she's got poorest levels of self-esteem, she never dares to speak truth as she knows that her truth has no value n a consequence to her truth there will be a big drama at home. so she either keeps quiet or lies to avoid drama. in this situation, the gal sees to be soo matured for me, she knows how to control parents behaviours n home atmosphere...huh? yeah! seriously, i felt the family is need of counseling.
why i was quoting this example is the entry of fear in child's mind that mom will scold has caused exit for her truthfulness.
it so happens with most of us. if i were in my students' place i wud do the same. ultinately like any normal individual i wud like to have peace at home practically n so i wud lie. smartness/ foolishness, call it as u want.

all i wanna convey is, entry causing exit can be managed if we know how to balance. balancing is nothing but accepting the changes practically. showing equality and being empathetic are wot i feel the whole life goes around.

Happy endings..
have a good night/ day ahead.
signing off
sans