slapster

I always had this in my mind.
there are various laws and acts for men n women who harass each other for various reasons, n for adults who abuse children. now tell me is there any law/ act against parents who fight/ argue/ quarrel  infront of their own/ other children?
I was discussing the same with few of my friends separately. i got different answers, some said children have to bare it n that  is wot it means as 'survival of the fittest.' kya? kuch race chal rahi hai kya? y shd children bare all this tamasha?

another frn said there shd be a law/ monetary fine. wot fine? they'll pay money n fight again. children actually paying for it. 
y am i so concerned abt this?? i've seen n seeing cases almost everyday of children at risk of/having learning disabilities & / or behavior problems. behavior problems are increasing in an alarming number coz the parents have lost the traditional values n morals. earlier it was a joint family tradition, n ppl used to b around to help solve/ resolve the probs, n for children cousins n sibs to help them cope.
now the scene completely diff. nuclear family n single child. damn it. i highly discourage this.
i understand, it causes inconvenience and loss of privacy in case of joint families. but studies n my personal experiences show that there are more number of cases recorded of children from nuclear families, having probs n difficulties in learning n behaviors.

i tell u, those who can adjust to a joint family culture are the once we've to call 'survival of the fittest'. A student of mine comes from a joint family, his IQ was 52 when I've started working with him. his family is made of 16 ppl including children. if he's from a nuclear family , his IQ wud have been somewer near 40. I truly appreciate the co-operation that i get from his family members. They are agriculturalists and are very very well off family. his parents are down to earth. they discuss among themselves and with other members of their joint family, to take any kind of decision about that child. this child hence likes his home more than school.

in another cases a gal and 2 boys (all my students) like to be in school as they are scared to go back home especially wen their dad comes back home 'coz the drama time begins.
I thought of asking the children 'wot do u want to do to ur  parents wen they fight/ quarrel infront of u'....but then i thought i'll be adding to their frustration n giving them a hint of having revengeful attitude. so i dint do dat. next time wen i sit for counseling, i'll ask the parents only. damn it. such parents suck with their high headed attitudes n ego. their children r worst victims.

i learnt even from few of my frns that even they had a bad childhood coz of their parents who always fought infront of them, n they felt like running away from home. some told that they used to brk things, some used to  lock themselves in the bathroom, some used to smoke n drink, some came back home late in the night just to sleep. what are all these??? various probs in behaviors! who suffered? only answer: children. who had fun? only answer : parents!..coz they fought n later to console each other they do romance and other shitty *ex life. for them aaal izzz wellll after that, till next fight. some nuts even get divorced- worsening the condition of the child. Such parents F**k each other physically and the child mentally.

i think ppl with high headed attitudes and ego shdn't get married. wanna have fun? go on a date/ have a safe sex life. marriage is not the solution/ ultimate destination. such ppl get married which according to me is not a productive but a reproductive idea, and consequently they fight and argue. their elders suggest them to have kids and start family so that things n issues wil get settled. it's a myth. things will get worsened if ppl are not mature enough to understand the fact that wen they cant solve their issues by themselves, how can a new born child do it for them? of course care n concern, love n affection for the child will be there initially, but they take the child for granted after sometime and that so called love- care- concern etc etc will be gradually fade out. the reality show begins again. sadly it begins wen the child reaches to 1-5 grades which is a crucial stages of learning. hence such situations at home truly contribute in learning but bad behaviors.

if i were given a chance I don't waste time in creating any law/ giving suggestion/counseling parents. just give a chance/ superpower to the child to slap n bash his/her parents off n spit on their bloody faces. nothing wrong i believe.

life after death??? a Q.

I was feeling very weird and freakish today. i was thinking of something and then I got few points and which gave me a vague answers to the biggest question ever....'is there a life after the death?'.

when we lose our frnds, hope and all other positive factors in life, the spirit in us dies. then life becomes miserable, some get into depression, some become revengeful/psychos and some others rejuvenate and start life afresh with new ambitions/goals/mottoes/principles etc. this is also a life after the death...death of the spirit. even if the body is in condition/not the spirit is dead n there is a life after the death of that spirit, irrespective of positive/ negative consequences/reactions.

same way when a person dies(the body)....the soul reacts similarly like that of the spirit. if it's the soul of a psycho..may be it becomes a ghost n troubles others n lives happily at the cost of its victim's sadness, or a good spirited soul takes a rebirth n leads a life afresh, some souls rest in peace. 

so there's a life after the death i think.

wot interpretation??? i think...'life is all about the SPIRIT n the SOUL'

BEAUTIFUL

Gimme tips to look beautiful. 

of(f) cinemas

wen i came to blr, in the early days i used to watch 3 movies a week...friday, saturday n sunday...if not 3 2 atleast. during those days, movies were not so good, i dint have interest as well. but i used to watch coz of my cousin bro n frns over here. it was fun n watching movie was like fun making. we used to crack jokes on all kindsa scenes n came out of theatres with unending laughter n stomach pain coz of it.

now i have interest, but no one to accompany, if company is available then no tkts. so i thought leave aside big cinemas, pvr, inox al al that big screen stuff n go hunt roadside small theatres. yes we did n we got tkts n assumed myself to be lucky, even if we're late to movie by 15mins. poor me n my intelligentsia. movie was so so bad....then i thought it was not me who is lucky, but it's the ppl who dint even give a damn thought to watch it. i shd have got the clue that the movie must b horrible wen the tkts were available at the counter even after 15 mins the show has started. cha! i watched that movie for less than 1 times.....yeah u are ryt, i walked out of the theatre.  

last such horrible movie was 'anaga anaga oka dheerudu' by disney...a telugu fantasy. in this film, hero siddharth looses his eye-sight, yet he can win the sword-fight using his hearing skills. he had to find the route to the villain's den to help escape the heroine and a superpower kid. but how???? ask me....but dont curse me. he finds the route with the help of a butterfly which he follows by listening to the sounds made by its fluttering wings . gghhhhhhrrrrr........baaaahhhhhh..........another such scene is with his sword he cuts the water drop into pieces/ droplets falling from the roof hearing the sound. tell me now, am i losing hearing capacity/ i dont know the fact that a falling water drop makes a sound through out it's path...ie from the roof till it reaches the floor??? :O

now tell me how can i get motivation to go, watch movies again?

b'day bumps

i came to blr not just alone...along with me came the terror in me. 'coz my b'day was ahead and u know i meet with an accident/ hear a bad news / sth upsetting happens on my bday every year. the thought of my b'day always scares my ass off. no accidents n no bad news yet there was sth that happened to upset me this bday. leave the sadness aside..goodtimes to share with u are as follows.

I wore a nice black n white satin frock, with big white ear rings n new white sandals. we (frns n cousins) went out n had a blast ..that blasting continued till late night at home. sick.

this will happen no more.

on my b'day...i thought i should do sth exclusively for myself n i shd dedicaten devote sometime for myself al alone yet it shd be productive. my health is my priority then comes my family,students, frns n so on. so i thought i shd go for a master health check up n i did. i called up justdial, got the sagar appolo number, called them up, fixed an appointment n rushed to hospital in no time after i woke up. i was there for more than 4hrs and i enjoyed the hospital and their hospitality, the doctors, nurses, etc were all humble n quick. i only wanted to have that experience once again n was prying god wen again. the receptionist then called me n tells me that i'd to revisit the hospital next to complete the remaining check ups. wowwwww wot a pleasant news. it was like a bday gift for me.  i went back home n then slept for sometime n went out in the evening for dinner.

 

 But u know wot....i have received 30 scraps(orkut), 0 bday bumps, 68 posts on the wall (fb), 7 sms, 10 msgs in fb inbox, 15 gmails, 1 ecard, more than 100 calls, 6 personal visits and big hugs.....  i also gotta nice Titan raga watch from my friend 3nath. my hand  looks so beautiful wen i wear it. what more i can have/ wish for on my bday?

long see---no time

'hai sana..long see no time.....' remember this dialogue from the movie of the millennium endhiran/ robot?

yeah there's no time and i've been longing to see a new post on my blog just like few frns n followers of my small blog.what the hell am i doing for not getting time to see my blog??? aweee i was sleeping, sona, nidra povadam, etc etc(all three same but in diff langs).

let me tell u....

My frn 3nadh came down happily and  eagerly, all the way from AP(arunachal pradesh) to spend time n celebrate new yr with al of us. but then look at me n my fate..things n ppl were'nt alryt n aint the same al the tym. things dint happen as we expected. though on 31st evening we went to my fav n famous ISKCON temple and played some kiddo game thru out the 31st nyt with frns n cousins....the happiness in me's completely lost. i was void of my true spirit. 

on new year's day  i went home for a week (as i thought)..but the trip extended to 15days as my mum wanted. she wanted me stay with her for another 15 days....yeah even she knows that am jobless and have lotsa time to spend for/with her...

i celebrated the pongal festival very nicely with mum n dad, n missed my sis as she flew to US of A a month back after getting happily married. i had all goodies at home, all my fav dishes, all new clothes, was completely on shopping spree. ya...i was living like a princess at home, this time at home i dint fell home sick (weneva i go home i fall sick). yeah...I definitely had migraine...which i dont consider as any kinda sickness, anymore. rather it's a part of me/ my life now, but that dint upset my trip. i met few childhood classmates and best frns...etc n killed time.

1 important thing is.... We've done the 2nd innings of Hithakarini. the much much awaited rehabilitation workshop with children with hearing n speech impaiment at the city of destiny...vishakhapatnam..my dreamland during the 2nd weekend of jan. the saddest part of it's that children at the ashram started going home for their pongal vacation. there were very few kids. Things again dint happen as we expected..but went on well n perfectly with what we've done with those few kids. Thanks to all my frns Rohitha, karthik, vicky, sujith etc for responding immediately and volunteering. i'm glad to have them as my frns.

Then i came back to Blr to restart my job n house hunt.

I came here, along with me came fever n throat infection followed my cough n cold and it's been 10th day today n i still have this bloody cold. I hardly remember of having cold since my childhood, all I remember is having headache and crying a lot (not for no reason). The problem here during the initial days of catching cold  is...'i dunno how to blow nose' :P sounds weird eh? yeah. see the beauty.....the situation and the life has automatically taught me how to do it, then i remember how i taught my student M, how to blow nose. let me tell u one observation of 'blowing nose' is....it consumes a lot of energy n i feel very giddy n reeling sensation. the after effects of the blowing nose are truly disgusting i must say. it sucks.

i came to blr not just alone...along with came the terror in me. 'coz my b'day was ahead and u know i meet with an accident/ hear a bad news / something upsetting happens on my bday. the thought of my b'day always scares my ass off. no accidents n no bad news yet there was something that happened to upset me later something good to cheer me. (click here for details).

n now am back to hunting job. hunting for a house n a job...dunno wen it ends.

in-creasing-order

I dont like to be told to do/ stop doing this or that. as a matter of fact most of us dont like...yeah??
wot iff some1 forces/ puts a pressure on us to do/ stop doing something??? I'll do it more if they ask me to stop doing it. because i hate to be told. I know why ppl ask me not to do. i'm empathetic. if ppl dont gimme time, i'll do it more.

i was told many a times to read books ....i hated to read for various reassons. but few ppl used to tell me more..ofcourse not pressurize, to read books. in neva touched a book then, coz i hated it. now no1 has told me, i got the intrest, i'm reading.

i'm being told not to have few bad habits. ppl know that i do it more if i'm asked not to, inspite of knowing it very clearly..ppl are telling me. wot does it mean...? hahahaha.....

recently i've stopped being empathetic with ppl who are not spl. earlier i was in a misconception that every1 is spl...n i used to b empethetic to ppl. now NO. my personal life is diff...it's rude n carries a lot of attitude. professionally i'm always  empathetic...children are always spl.