there are various laws and acts for men n women who harass each other for various reasons, n for adults who abuse children. now tell me is there any law/ act against parents who fight/ argue/ quarrel infront of their own/ other children?
I was discussing the same with few of my friends separately. i got different answers, some said children have to bare it n that is wot it means as 'survival of the fittest.' kya? kuch race chal rahi hai kya? y shd children bare all this tamasha?
another frn said there shd be a law/ monetary fine. wot fine? they'll pay money n fight again. children actually paying for it.
y am i so concerned abt this?? i've seen n seeing cases almost everyday of children at risk of/having learning disabilities & / or behavior problems. behavior problems are increasing in an alarming number coz the parents have lost the traditional values n morals. earlier it was a joint family tradition, n ppl used to b around to help solve/ resolve the probs, n for children cousins n sibs to help them cope.
now the scene completely diff. nuclear family n single child. damn it. i highly discourage this.
i understand, it causes inconvenience and loss of privacy in case of joint families. but studies n my personal experiences show that there are more number of cases recorded of children from nuclear families, having probs n difficulties in learning n behaviors.
i tell u, those who can adjust to a joint family culture are the once we've to call 'survival of the fittest'. A student of mine comes from a joint family, his IQ was 52 when I've started working with him. his family is made of 16 ppl including children. if he's from a nuclear family , his IQ wud have been somewer near 40. I truly appreciate the co-operation that i get from his family members. They are agriculturalists and are very very well off family. his parents are down to earth. they discuss among themselves and with other members of their joint family, to take any kind of decision about that child. this child hence likes his home more than school.
in another cases a gal and 2 boys (all my students) like to be in school as they are scared to go back home especially wen their dad comes back home 'coz the drama time begins.
I thought of asking the children 'wot do u want to do to ur parents wen they fight/ quarrel infront of u'....but then i thought i'll be adding to their frustration n giving them a hint of having revengeful attitude. so i dint do dat. next time wen i sit for counseling, i'll ask the parents only. damn it. such parents suck with their high headed attitudes n ego. their children r worst victims.
i learnt even from few of my frns that even they had a bad childhood coz of their parents who always fought infront of them, n they felt like running away from home. some told that they used to brk things, some used to lock themselves in the bathroom, some used to smoke n drink, some came back home late in the night just to sleep. what are all these??? various probs in behaviors! who suffered? only answer: children. who had fun? only answer : parents!..coz they fought n later to console each other they do romance and other shitty *ex life. for them aaal izzz wellll after that, till next fight. some nuts even get divorced- worsening the condition of the child. Such parents F**k each other physically and the child mentally.
i think ppl with high headed attitudes and ego shdn't get married. wanna have fun? go on a date/ have a safe sex life. marriage is not the solution/ ultimate destination. such ppl get married which according to me is not a productive but a reproductive idea, and consequently they fight and argue. their elders suggest them to have kids and start family so that things n issues wil get settled. it's a myth. things will get worsened if ppl are not mature enough to understand the fact that wen they cant solve their issues by themselves, how can a new born child do it for them? of course care n concern, love n affection for the child will be there initially, but they take the child for granted after sometime and that so called love- care- concern etc etc will be gradually fade out. the reality show begins again. sadly it begins wen the child reaches to 1-5 grades which is a crucial stages of learning. hence such situations at home truly contribute in learning but bad behaviors.
if i were given a chance I don't waste time in creating any law/ giving suggestion/counseling parents. just give a chance/ superpower to the child to slap n bash his/her parents off n spit on their bloody faces. nothing wrong i believe.
3 comments:
I agree with you Sans. It is indeed a serious cause for concern.
I think it has to do with changing the attitude of the parents. A lot of parents think its ok to argue before kids, that they are just kids and would never mind. They do not understand the conflict they are creating in the child's mind. Awful.
you should write a research paper on this. try to draw a correlation between the factors and write it and submit it to a journal or put a PIL in law. who knows, a law might come up!
I need not mention the positives of the post as they are quite obvious. Supporting the idea of a joint family is as crap an opinion can get. you said the kid would have an iq of 40 if he were in a nuclear family. how can you say that? what fucking difference does it make if it is a joint or nuclear family? the key is the parents should take care of the kid.
Yeah, high-headed people should not marry is valid. How wrong it is to be arrogant, egoistic and head-strong in this Indian society which makes rolemodels of slaves who keep their masters in their hearts, chanting their names all the time. If you ask all egotists not to marry and not to reproduce, the world will be barren of kids soon.
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